Soul Support

What do you do as a bonus parent when there are people who try to poison your relationship with your bonus kids? We have had this happen in the past few years and it resurfaced several weeks ago. Our kids have heard it all....and they are smart enough and old enough now to see right thru it. I know that divorce is hard, I get that...but what I don't get are hurtful and harmful comments that are based on fear and are used to manipulate a sweet soul. Why would you pride yourself on hurting them? Why would you want to alienate them from a parent and an extended family who welcomes them with love? I keep trying to think of a good way to tell these people that they are hurting their relationship with the kids but after almost 4 years I know that they aren't open to hearing the kids' hearts. As a mom, my first instinct is to protect them....but I can only do so much from this side of the fence.

When the kids come home with a crushed spirit and frustrated heart we are the ones who talk them thru it. When you hurt them it just sends them running into our arms. These kids are smart enough to know who loves them unconditionally, who has their best interests at heart, who promotes healthy relationships within their family and who will support them in everything. When you perpetuate a victims mentality you are denying a place for healing and restoration. Yes, God hates divorce but He can bring healing to this family and that is what we are praying for. We are praying that those hearts will change and they will be open to God's plan for all of us. It should not be us against you....it should be all of us, unified in loving, supporting and promoting the emotional, spiritual and physical well being of the children who were given to us. We take our responsibility of SOUL SUPPORT very seriously and will continue to shower them with GRACE, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE & MERCY...would you join us?

John 13:35 says "By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another."